Thursday, December 17, 2009
Seek apology and Give forgiveness...
وَلاَ يَأْتَلِ أُوْلُواْ ٱلْفَضْلِ مِنكُمْ وَٱلسَّعَةِ أَن يُؤْتُوۤاْ أُوْلِي ٱلْقُرْبَىٰ وَٱلْمَسَاكِينَ وَٱلْمُهَاجِرِينَ فِي سَبِيلِ ٱللَّهِ
وَلْيَعْفُواْ وَلْيَصْفَحُوۤاْ أَلاَ تُحِبُّونَ أَن يَغْفِرَ ٱللَّهُ لَكُمْ وَٱللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
"...wal ya’fu wal yasfahū, alā tuhibbūna aiyaghfirallahu lakum, wallahu ghafūrurrahīm."
(Surah An-Nur: 22)
"..let them forgive and overlook, do you not wish that God should forgive you? For God is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful."
Hendaklah mereka memaafkan dan merelakan. Tidakkah kamu suka; bahawa Allah mengampuni dosamu? Allah Pengampun lagi Maha Pengasih.
Why do we always keep 'fire' in our heart? Is the flame reached to the 'highest' level of anger? Sometimes yes, sometimes not..But still it is considered as anger..Hard to cool the 'hot' especially when it comes to something which is/are unseen, "complicated" would be the result I would like to say..
When a person is angry, only 'the other side' of his/her opponents emerged out of nowhere, and is seen..One by one to be pronounced..Nothing left in the bank..(huu..) Why? To satisfy his/her feelings..to fulfill the anger..
Some people tend to seek other people and make things becoming 'widely known'..Wow! This is dangerous! Absolutely! As we have already acknowledged that one nature of man is possessing high curiosity..And we tend to perceive something negative first rather than positive..Then, only 1:9 will think rationally by being husnuzon and alert with fitnah, rumors, and teases..
I asked myself..Why is it so hard to forgive? The Prophet s.a.w himself ever turned his face away from three people during his time due to their negligence in joining a war..although they have seek his apology seriously, repeatedly..But then a revelation came asking the Prophet s.a.w to forgive them..to show that Allah has accepted their regret..Therefore, there would be no reason for the Prophet s.a.w to turn his face away from them anymore because Allah has accepted their taubat..
Hablumminallah wa hablumminannaas...
To have a good relationship with Allah first is the priority..Man comes next..Is it really that means? Actually, here the concept of equilibrium is applied..However, in my opinion, Allah should be the first to be given priority..Why? He Knows everything..Even though we have problems with others and we have seek their forgiveness, but still they don't want to forgive us...TURN TO HIM..! For He is always The Best (place) to come back..Why? Because He is God..He is The One who had created all hearts..and He is The One who has POWER to give hidayah to whom He wishes to..
Again? Why is it so hard for us to forgive others? Please..Think by using your 'aql, not by following your desire..Think..It does not require much time..Only a few second, after your friends, your siblings, your relatives, your spouses (maybe) say SORRY, just accept that..
Who are you not to forgive people?
Who are you not to seek others' apology?
Who are you to keep all flame in your heart?
Who are you not accepting others' excuse?
Who are you?
Are you perfect enough to say that others have made so many mistakes to you until it is so hard for you to forgive them?
What about you?
Did you treat people nicely before?
Did you ever say SORRY for misbehave towards others?
Yes? No? (Don't know? -definitely unacceptable-)
Believe me! People treat you as how you treat them in the first place..My principle is easy.."What you give, you get back"..Yup!
Think again..If you think others are not perfect..always make you sick, boring, get irritated inside, make you feel so sad, hurt so bad..and you complained about them..
Think again..Where do they come from? Who creates them? Who knows best about them? All this while, you complained too much..Everything looked so bad, not perfect, and many..Do you ever realized that they are all come from One Sustainer who is Allah?
Many things I've heard..People got irritated with ants and say "Tak guna punya semut", "Celaka"..Most heard, many said about their brothers and sisters "Hampeh betul mamat/minah tu", "Bingung", "Bodoh"..backbiting happens everywhere..Broken friendship..everything...BROKEN into pieces..until nothing is left other than HATE..Are you going to let your heart being possessed by syaitan? Stop looking at the black small dot on a white plain paper..Look at the white!
Being narrow-minded, complaint too much, hate..Do you know that you are getting far away from learn how to appreciate? Just make it simple..Simplify your life..So that you can live your life to the fullest as successful Muslims..
Past is past..Take those 'sour' experiences as a lesson..It is okay to have a sense of hesitation towards anybody you know but try your best to limit the hesitations..Avoid over-generalization..
Because one and each person is special and unique including yourself..You may be not know it, but others perceive you as special..Therefore, try to think at the best level as Allah has grant us an 'aql to think..to manage our life, control our emotion, shape our strong personality, as well as to develop emotional intelligence..
What you give, you get back..
Never feel hatred and hate..
Appreciate any moment that had happened throughout your life..
So that you know how to deal with yourself in the future..
Never disclose any weakness of your opponent..
And many..You know yourself best..
Just perceive that there must be hikmah behind all those things..Just accept it..And live like usual..
The ayah from Surah An-Nur: 22 was emphasized in the beginning is aimed to guide us..to encourage forgiving and seek apology attitude..to improve our ethics..Why?
The result; benefits for all parties..When you seek apology and give forgiveness, the sweetness comes to you first..How sweet it is, only you can feel it..
Benefits to other parties; strengthen the brotherhood, trust developed, no hatred feelings, no broken chain, happiness, confidence, increase self-esteem, (and many) as well as reward from Him..- yaqeen -
Islam is a just and beautiful religion, isn't it? :)
Let us take this opportunity to learn how to appreciate..
Believe me..there will be no such things known as wastage..
Because we have had so many times and spaces to make us who we are today..
Welcome to the reality.. :)
~ Allahualam ~